I don't think the weight of the rods has as much to do as the flexibility desired by the different wrap count, After talking to Dave H. about the Silver Bullets in Maryland this year he cleared up a lot of things about rod design.
There is no way to consistently make rods the same weight, However getting the desired flexibility is achieved in the wrapping process.
Carbon stock resins can all vary batch to batch, The whole goal is the get them wrapped the right way to achieve the desired effect.
1 rod weighing 12 gr and 1 at 14 isn't going to make the kite fly messed up that's grasping at straws, However if they are in fact mislabeled the weight difference between the 2,3,4 wrap rods are enough to determine the difference.
Better yet to really tell is put them in the LE and see how they bend in time most people can tell what rod they are using just by how they react and flex.
BTW Silver Bullets Frikken Rule,
Some day I'd hope to see a Golden Bullet where the outer edges are more like race rods as opposed to 2 wraps for higher wind range.